Location: Starbucks, Little Five Points. Time: 8:23pm
Typing behind the computer screen, the Foreign Exchange in rotation and an occasional daydream out the window, I look into the streets for some sort of amusement as my mind breaks from the work I have in front of me.
Question Existing: Long distance, is it fair for you to say its killing you? Brandy played up the scenario in her recent album, 'Human' where she expressed the pains of being in a long distance relationship. Like everything in life, there's more than one side to a story.
We always ask for the perfect romance or opt for that timeless and oh-so-tired excuse that "there's no one out there for me." Honestly, give me a break. We all want love to be this easy find, this magical tale that should be documented for a Disney playwright. Negative. It's not going to be that easy all the time, unless you fancy the idea of the old lady and her 40cats. So I recently decided to try it out, and yes that is a major step. You have to borderline fight for your love, not necessarily in competition with others, but more so a battle with yourself to simply be able to exhibit and learn a sense of trust, and self-control.
Of course, there's the circle friends, ladies you've got "your girls," and as cliche and stereotypical as it sounds, when times get hard they're the ones standing in as the leading actresses in this winter's feature film, 'The Devil's Advocate.' As happy as they might seem about you being in a relationship, why are they the last ones to help you fight temptations? Although, you can't hold the homies accountable , a little support goes a long way when you need it.
"Man, I don't see how you do it. That couldn't be me."
And you're absolutely right, this couldn't be you. For a good/strong relationship you have to make sacrifices to make it work. Particularly, when you're not located under the same roof, let alone different city limits.
I suppose the lingering question that seemingly will go unanswered for awhile is "when's the next time you're going to see each other?" Don't count it as a bad thing if you can't answer the question--. Trust me, you're not the only one, but just know that the same feeling that this "long distance" is giving you, more thank likely is affecting her/him the same way. The physical is quite an important aspect in a relationship, and I think we ALL can agree on that, but just do not forget the power of mental stimulation.
Hell, and if that doesn't work TECHNOLOGY is man's best friend... Between video chat, skype, picmail, etc. There are many remedies that can ease that tension. But hey, there is no specific guidelines on how to make it work. You just have to LET it work...
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